Submission: Just a little rant

I don’t understand the logic of certain pro-lifers, that is, the ones who think that it is okay to kill and eat a living, conceived animal but think it’s wrong to abort foetus, and the pro-lifers who think it is acceptable to join the army and murder numerous people, many who are innocent and finally, those who condemn gay marriage or are homophobic, because what if the foetus you ”saved” turned out to be gay? It can’t win. 

FYC: It’s not a stance that relies much on reason. 

Submission: Breast Feeding.

I have no problem with breast feeding in public, it just makes people uncomfortable, so why not just drape a blanket over your chest. I get that boobs are out all the time and most women show off a lot more cleavage than they should, but that cleavage also makes people uncomfortable a lot of the time. I don’t think breast feeding in public is a bad thing, I just don’t like it when I can see the entire side boob action going on. Sometimes its hard not to look when the baby is cute until you realize WAY too late that its got a titty in its mouth. Now not only are you embarrassed for looking but the mom is glaring at you. Just cover that shit up or go a family area.

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FYC: Uh, no thank you?

I’m not ashamed of my body and I’m going to feed my baby wherever I want and whenever he’s hungry. 

I’m sorry if my body makes you uncomfortable but that’s a little deeper ingrained in your society than I care to get into. My boobs are not offensive and they don’t make people uncomfortable because there’s anything wrong with them. It makes them uncomfortable because of how sexualized they are. 

I just want to say thank you. Thank you for everything you write, everything you stand and fight for. Ten months ago I was on the pill but my doctor never once explained the importance of taking it at the exact same time every day and as a result of my ignorance and poor education, I became pregnant. I come from a very poor family and consider myself extremely lucky to be the first of my family to go on past high school and only am able to because I joined the military. If I were to bear this child, it would have meant an end to my dream and have to drop out of school to take care of this child. Shortly after I found out, the father was put in jail and sent away to a halfway-home. My child deserved a better life than this and I would never want it to live the way I had to so I chose to have an abortion. Not a single day goes by that October 28th, 2011, the day I went through with my decision, doesn’t play through my head. I cry myself to sleep at nights because of what I did but it doesn’t mean that I don’t believe it was the right choice. It only gives me a reason to try harder and do greater things in life so one day I can give my child everything I never had and he or she can grow up loved and happy and never have a need for anything. Again, thank you, because your words have helped bring some solace to a heavy, broken heart.

Submission: My two cents that didn’t fit in the ask.

Submission: I’d be wary about labelling people bigots solely because they say “women” instead of “people” in abortion debates. Fact remains that anti-choice activism is rooted in misogyny. By leaping at people’s throats because of a word and an issue they might never have even thought about does nothing to advance our cause. On the contrary, “men can get pregnant, too” IS TRUE, but it being used as an argument for pro-choice has, to me, a whiff of reinforcing patriarchy (“Look, nevermind about women, but what about the MEN?!”).

The primary targets of anti-choicers are cis women, full stop. I use inclusive language as much as I can, but trans* rights are not the main point of the abortion debate.

Fuckyeahchoice: No. Please. Stop. 

First and foremost, if someone is new to this debate or this topic or this scene or whatever you want to call it, I’m not going to jump down their throat. I will explain the topic as I have multiple times in the best way that I can and hope they’re not too much of an asshole to not be able to say ‘people’.

Second, it is not a ‘what about the men’. That makes me think you don’t fully understand this issue at all. It’s not just women and men who can get pregnant. It’s also intersex people. Non-binaries and a plethora of other identities as well that you’re ‘trying to use inclusive language for’. Poor you. 

You don’t think bigotry against trans* individual has a taste of misogyny? And they’re targeting cis women because they are ALSO excluding trans* people in their debates but their shitty laws are FULLY affecting them, just as they affect cis women. 

This isn’t a matter of ‘trans* rights trumps abortion rights’, it’s a matter of being a decent fucking human being. It’s treating people as they should be treated within a discussion that is just as much theirs. Why battle for the rights of some? Why should only one group of people be recognized? Is it really a victory if it is at the cost of our allies? 

Basically, in summary, if you can’t be bothered to say ‘people’ instead of ‘women’ or recognize that this is not a cis woman issue then I highly doubt you could be contributing anything useful to the abortion debate. 

Submission re:Life Begins

I’ve always sort of wondered something about the “life begins at conception” debate… If life is simply sperm meeting egg, are the sperm and egg themselves “alive” and if so, should it be illegal to masturbate if you’re a male or, God forbid, ovulate without procreation if you’re a female? Isn’t spilling your seed preventing a child? It just seems like an argument that has too many possible holes in it. I’m completely pro-choice, I’m just curious on your thoughts. 

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Sperm and eggs are living, technically. Which is where we have problems with the “It’s a scientific FACT life begins at conception” No. It’s not. Life doesn’t seem to begin at all, it seems to be transferred. The anti-choice side isn’t exactly logical or truthful at any point but I feel like this one is just something that’s confusing for everyone and I don’t blame them for not knowing all the answers to everything, I do blame them for making shit up though. 

There’s no point where life suddenly begins and honestly sentience probably doesn’t really start until long after birth. So where do we draw the line? Honestly, we have it in the most logical place. We’ve drawn the line where the ‘death’ of the embryo/fetus/child/whatever stage it’s at both serves a purpose and is a burden on someone else’s body. By burden I just mean, it’s there. You don’t need to be in danger to get an abortion, you don’t need to justify it to me or anyone, you just need to not be pregnant. 

Submission re: Plan B

Re birth control and the young woman who’d had a negative experience: the first three months are full of adjustment.  After that, if one is still having lousy hormonal symptoms and taking the Pill correctly, it is time to call the ob/gyn and switch versions/hormone levels, whether or not you’re a teen. I was a teenager with lousy natural estrogen production, and so getting on a high-E version of the Pill did wonders for my skin and menstrual cycle.  Hormone levels that cause very heavy bleeding, severe cramping, acne, mood swings, or any other icky symptoms are problematic.  Also, some versions of the birth control pill can increase the risk of heart attack or stroke in some women.  All this is why the Pill isn’t available sans prescription, and why you should talk to your doctor if you’re having really icky lady-hormone-imbalance problems.  /Years/ of serious cramping and such sounds miserable, and I’m sorry you went through that.  In a better society, everyone would have access to competent reproductive healthcare, and far fewer people would experience that much monthly physical discomfort. 

Plan B is not the Pill.  It’s safer than pregnancy, rather less risky than dosing oneself with hormones consistently over months/years, and available OTC for good reason. 

(tw: holocaust, 9/11, young child's death)'180'

This documentary is very pro-life. It relates abortion to the Holocaust. We had someone handing out these DVDs on my college campus and I know it horrified quite a few people in all directions. I know some pro-life people found it confusing that abortion was being related to the Holocaust, some thought it amazing. Personally, it doesn’t stop me being pro-choice, but I wondered what your opinion of it would be.

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Abortion being compared to the Holocaust(or I’ve also seen 9/11) infuriates me. Not only were the people affected by those tragedies real people and felt that pain and fear and suffered  but they also had families and friends who were and are also real people who are hurt by the antis insensitive and inaccurate comparison.   

Imagine this; I (hypothetically) had a young child die and am still grieving. Would it be okay for you who hypothetically aborted your unwanted pregnancy to be like “hey man, I had the exact same thing happen to me pretty much and I’m fine so just chill out” 

If abortion(in general) is a tragedy tell me how it’s a tragedy in it’s own right(hint:you can’t)

Reason #234 you should be Pro-Choice; Story Submission

I’ve got a story. You can choose whether or not you want to publish it; I just felt like sharing.

My mother was an only child, but my grandmother got pregnant twice. Very early into her second pregnancy, she fell horribly ill with acute appendicitis. The sickness took a toll on her entire body, especially her kidneys. Her doctor told her that if she kept the baby her kidneys would fail, and she and the baby would both die before the baby could even come to term. My grandmother, her husband, and the doctor all agreed that the only option was for her to abort the baby

Despite that fact, she still had to go to court to get permission to abort the it. She needed to ask permission to get a procedure that would save her life. The proceedings took so long that she was very late into her pregnancy (and very, very sick) by the time she was approved to get it aborted. The ordeal was traumatizing to her, and taxed her health so badly she never completely recovered.

For a moment, I want everyone to just abandon everything except logical thinking, and look at it from that perspective. My grandmother and her baby would have died if she was not allowed to get this procedure. And yet she still had to wait months and months and fight the system to get a procedure that would have saved her life, at the expense of a creature who never would have lived to birth anyway. How much sense does that make?

This was thirty or forty years ago. We’d like to think we’re more rational than that nowadays, right? I wonder, sometimes. How can anyone be pro-life when cases like this exist? How can anyone claim to be acting off of morality when it is at the expense of human lives? I just…I don’t understand.